HEALING
TIPS
Recovering
your Relationship
By
Susan Erling Martinez
copyrighted material
- DETACH WITH LOVE FROM THE ADDICT.
ATTACH WITH PASSION TO THE DIVINE.
- FORGIVE EVERYONE INVOLVED. THE
ADDICT. YOURSELF.
OTHERS, SUCH AS FAMILY MEMBERS AND FRIENDS.
- IN THE EARLY STAGES, FOCUS ON HEALING YOURSELF, NOT ON HEALING THE
ADDICT OR THE MARRIAGE. TRY...
- PRAYER, MEDITATION, WALKING.
- READING, TELLING YOUR STORY, LISTENING TO THE STORIES OF OTHERS.
- FIND A MENTOR OR ROLE MODEL.
HE OR SHE MAY BE THE AUTHOR OF A BOOK THAT HAS HELPED YOU, A
PROFESSIONAL CAREGIVER, AN UNDERSTANDING PARENT, SIBLING, OR FRIEND, OR A
SPONSOR. “WHEN THE STUDENT
IS READY, THE TEACHER WILL COME.”
- JOIN A GROUP AND/OR SEE A PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR.
- SUPPORT EACH OTHER’S HEALING.
ATTEND CLASSES, MEETINGS, AND HEALING EVENTS TOGETHER.
SHARE SUPPORT MATERIALS. MAKE HEALING A FAMILY PROJECT.
INVOLVE EVERYONE IN THE HOUSEHOLD.
(EVEN OUR CATS WENT OFF CATNIP IN SUPPORT OF US!)
- FIND A "NEW NORMAL" LIFESTYLE WITHOUT ALCOHOL, DRUGS, OR
UNHEALTHY BEHAVIORS. YOUR OLD
LIFESTYLE OBVIOUSLY DID NOT PROMOTE HEALTH AND HAPPINESS, SO LET IT GO.
BE WILLING AND EXCITED TO FIND NEW WAYS OF THINKING, ACTING, BEING,
AND DOING. DISCOVER WAYS TO
HAVE “SOBER FUN.” (NO, THAT IS NOT AN OXYMORON!).
- HELP OTHERS. IT IS
NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE TO BECOME WELL ALONE.
SUFFERING HUMANS NEED THE HELP AND SUPPORT OF OTHER COMPASSIONATE
HUMANS. WHO HELPED YOU?
MAKE YOURSELF OPEN AND AVAILABLE TO OTHERS WHO NEED HELP.
LISTEN TO THEIR STORIES. OFFER
TIPS ON WHAT IS WORKING FOR YOU. PRAY
FOR THEIR SUFFERING TO END. PASS IT ON.
Copyright 2002 Susan Martinez
This article may be reprinted or posted online with
the permission of the author. Contact Susan.
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